In some was I was lucky, the conditions of my divorce made my split extremely cauterized. When I discovered my ex-husband was gay, I wanted out of the marriage immediately. I saw no hope for reconciliation and had no desire to work anything out. We had no children so I didn’t see the point in keeping him […]
The current court struggle against the Defense of Marriage Act in the US Supreme Court could help decide the fate of same-sex marriage in this country. If the federal government decides that limiting marriage to one man and one woman is unconstitutional, opportunities for same-sex marriage legislation could open up in states that have banned such unions. Any laws currently […]
I think I might be beginning to snap. Not actually have an emotional break down, I am healthier than I have been in years. I am just so tired of living in New York, but I love New York. My entire being has become conformed to this strange reality of subway commuting, 3 am […]
A friend suggested I write this post, when I mentioned to her some of the things people have said to me post-split. It’s been three and a half years since my divorce but the hits keep coming! So I asked some of my divorced Facebook friends to tell me some of the worst comments they […]
This is a topic I have written about extensively in the past, but since I consider myself a divorce advocate I wanted to re-visit it. The holidays are rough…hang in there guys! I wanted to write this piece because I really think a lot of the “Advice for Divorced People” websites, books and other […]
I am launching a new category on this blog: The Hall of Fame. Anyone I place in the online dating Hall of Fame will be a person who expresses the most extreme traits of an already established archetype. To protect this man’s identity for the purposes of this article I will simply call him, “The […]
Are you are getting married soon? In the US the average wedding costs around $25,631 The US wedding industry is said to be about $120 BILLION dollars, with $50 Billion on wedding costs and the remaining $70 billion on purchasing and furnishing a new home or residence. All of this is great and it certainly helps […]
In the American classic ”The Scarlet Letter” Nathanial Hawthorne wrote about Hester Prynne, a woman who conceived a daughter through an adulterous affair with a minister. Her community, in 17th century Massachusetts, forces her to wear a red-letter “A” upon all of her clothing as a constant reminder of her transgression, and to publicly humiliate her. […]
So any regular readers of this blog already know, I am a straight spouse. A straight spouse is a person who married someone who they thought was straight only to find out years later that their partner was actually secretly gay. My marriage was smoke and mirrors of lies, deception and ultimately betrayal. From the […]
This blog is about a lot of things, dating, divorce, and depression but occasionally a story just jumps out and screams…WRITE ABOUT ME. And strangely this one called to me. I often tell my friends, especially my young friends the following phrase after a nasty break-up “You Dodged a Bullet” Marriage is not exactly easy […]
