So I did another search on Match.com tonight and at first glance this guy seemed all right but then I read this…and I am going to break it down into sections…
- Professional looking for a modern, emancipated, attractive, sane (!!), affectionate, feminine, open-minded, sexy, and sexual woman.
So OK, the sexual part is a bit off-putting as it can come across as kind of creepy. And he did write it twice, sexy and sexual, so we get it, you are a man who likes sex…shocking! And sane? Well who really thinks they are insane? I think insanity is a relative term. I dress up in wigs and yell into microphones all over the city for about $40-75 a show and during the day I perform for children as Lulu the clown or paint faces of the extremely rich and privileged. All in hopes that I might one day get a comedy, voice over or commercial career. Many would call that insanity. Even I call it insanity, but I digress.
- She should be down-to-earth and comfortable in the local diner as much as in a 5 star restaurant. No prude goody-two-shoes or Manhattan socialites, please. I can meet those any day in the city…I am European, liberal, very open-minded and am looking for my match.
OK dude I am with you! But European causes some red flags in my head. Are you going to want to move back? Are you looking for a green card? It is not a HUGE red flag, but it is something to mention as I love living in New York and I NEVER WANT TO MOVE! And no goody-two-shoes? What does that mean? I don’t drink, smoke or do drugs so some might call me a goody-two-shoes, but I also perform extremely raunchy adult themed material both in stand-up and in the burlesque community. So I don’t know if in this guy’s book I would be a goody-two-shoes or not! I guess I ride that Madonna/Whore conflict in my persona a bit on the razor’s edge. I would definitely not call myself a prude…if you listen to any of my song lyrics…the word prude wouldn’t really come to mind. But then he wrote this, and any lingering desire I had to wink at him or send him an email disappeared.
After a few weeks on here, I’d also like to add:
- if you have pictures of you cuddling with your dog/ cat
- excessive nature pictures
- pictures of gardens of cherry-blossoms
- write that you “like the finer things in life”
- carry around a tiny dog, like a chihuahua, in a luxury bag and refer to it as your “baby”
- had so much plastic surgery that you start to look like the cat woman
- every one of your kids is from a different father
- we are NOT a match. Guaranteed.
Dude! It is one thing to bitch about these things on a blog, and another thing entirely to put these on your profile where you think potentially interested women might read it…HA! 🙂
I get him on the gold digger hints, the multiple baby daddies…those are obvious red flags. Although babies and baby daddy situations can be tricky, so it is hard to put a blanket statement out there like that. As I have know some very stable men and women who might have children with more than one partner. But in general it is a red flag, I will give him that.
But I call my cats my babies and treat them almost like they are my children. So what? And what is wrong with nature shots? I don’t have any on my profile and they are a bit odd, but who cares? And he doesn’t like people cuddling with their pets? That is strange, why would that illicit such a negative reaction in a person?
My hunch is that he is angry and frustrated from the dating process. Maybe he is the sweetest man on the planet, but online dating is not like ordering a sandwich. Sure I would prefer someone age appropriate, at least my height, not in the entertainment business and stable…so I get it. But to put an angry laundry list ON YOUR PROFILE? I am sure he is still getting multiple emails from multiple women with the very things he describes. And at the same time driving women like myself away. Because most people don’t read your profile, yet the slightly more “sane” women do. So way to go Mr. Angry European for making my online experience that much more entertaining and draining. HA! 🙂
I just got this one today and I had to add it. I really felt for this guy as I have been ignored countless times from men online after I sent a short email or wink, so I get it. But this man shouldn’t have this on his profile, I can’t imagine any woman would send him an email after reading this. I felt so strongly that I actually sent him a short note basically saying, look, if you only knew what women go through on these sites. I have had more men personally attack me for no reason than I can to mention.
The first thing I need to say to any woman who reads my profile and is interested in meeting me: SAY SO. Send me a message and invite me to meet you. I’ve sent several hundred messages to several hundred women of all different types, from all kinds of backgrounds. Each one of them was at least 95% match, 85% friend, and less than 10% enemy. Most were over 98% match.
Aside from ONE woman, I have been utterly ignored.
No “no thank you,” no “you’re not my type, sorry.”
And I ask you, who would respond positively to a profile that starts out like that? I can’t imagine. I really do empathize with his situation, but his profile is not helping. What is that phrase again? “There is a reason why they are single”
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